Emotional decluttering: letting people go.

“Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace”~Dalai Lama

During my declutter process the last few months, I encountered some challenges and hardships because I had to finally cut some contacts off which meant losing some people.

Living in a “have it all” society, there is still this mindset that more is better, so the more of something you have, the better off you are. This can become extremely challenging especially when it comes to the amount of people we welcome and keep in our personal lives.

We sometimes forget that the same way material clutter can distract us from what’s important and add negativity in our lives, so can the people we decide to keep.

Sure, we were raised to be nice to everyone and it would be really awesome if everyone was good for us but that isn’t usually the case.

Usually, there are always those people who we know for a fact, bring negativity into our lives but we decide to keep them around anyway. Why? Maybe it’s because we think they’ll change or we think next time won’t be so bad but they don’t and it usually is.

You know that friend that always tries to make it seem as if everything you do is a competition, or that relative that always informs you about the negative comments so and so made about you?

You know how sometimes you feel really good about yourself but then you talk to this one person and you immediately begin feeling terrible and doubtful about yourself?

Or how sometimes you have the most peaceful, drama-free time of your life but that one person texts/calls you and all of a sudden the peace is gone?

Just to mention a few.

Now this are my examples and I’m pretty sure everyone has their own version of this.

The question that remains is, at what cost do we keep these kind of relationships in our lives? Are they really worth our sanity and are they really worth getting distracted by?

For me, the answer is No and this is where conscious living and minimalism comes in handy.

You don’t have to be a minimalist to do this but the next time you declutter, remember to look carefully at the company you keep. It’s about quality over quantity.

When you get rid of non-productive, toxic relationships and people from your life, you create more room and time for the wonderful people and relationships that bring you joy.

Thanks for stopping by.

3 comments

  1. What a lovely picture, you look so contented.

    I wholeheartedly agree, it is true that the space is immediately filled by someone new – its happened to me lots of time. I find I don’t need that many friends, I find it exhausting, but there is pressure to have many people around you – its a hangover from school days maybe. Great post.

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